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So often I listen people say what good children they have, all butmeone acquaint someone another what a good child they have, and this always gives me cease for thought. What is it that makes a child "good"? Is it act what he or she is told? Being quiet? Not questioning or talking back? And if it is one or all of these things, how do those behaviors bode for the future? You watch, good kids are a wonderful thing in the moment, but as we raise our children, aren't we looking to the future? The way I see it, our job is not necessarily to raise good kids, but furthermore to raise great adults.
Raising a child to be a large adult takes more perseverance, more work and the competence to at times "retard your self at the door". This type of parenting requires allowing your children to inquire questions even when those questions are almost the choices or decisions that you are making; it requires asking your children for their opinion for well as asking them for their solution to the problem; it requires listening to their thoughts and opinions and truly measuring them into your decision making processes particularly when it comes to decisions you are making with regard to them; it requires sometimes changing your idea, especially if your child presents legal and reasonable message or opinions to the situation in answer; and yes, it even requires sometimes admitting that you were bad.
So, we can raise our children to be agreeable and servile kids, children that we can be pride of (and yes, if you read my earlier blog entrance 3/2/10, you know my thoughts about this word, so I secondhand it purposely-